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It might be too difficult to change someone’s else experiences about you. It might be difficult to change your life immediately.

But changing your experiences about yourself is much more manageable and doable. And this is not for anyone else, it’s for you. So you can feel different about yourself, so you can feel better about yourself. So you can feel yourself be renewed, and not boring.

What’re ways to change your experiences about yourself?

1/ Doing something different:

• Going to a new place / Going to a different route with what you usually commute.
• Trying food you haven’t eaten before
• Meeting new people
• Dressing new clothes, or changing to a new style of clothes that you have.
• Make up and make yourself look beautiful
• Playing a new game
• Thinking differently about yourself

How does a happy person look like? How do they feel like?

• They enjoy themselves and enjoy life. They enjoy being themselves. They’re comfortable on their own skin. Or they learn to be so. They know that there are still many things for them to grow and they enjoy the process.

• They enjoy their look, they enjoy the way they carry themselves, present themselves, take care of themselves. Or they learn to be so. They know that they are beautiful in their own way.
• They’re proud of themselves no matter what. Regardless of what they have achieved or not achieved in their life, they know that in comparison with their background or what they’ve been through, they’ve done great. They know that they did the best they could with the level of awareness they have.
• They choose to remember the good part about their past and discard the rest.
• They think better about themselves, people around them, and the world. They don’t see the world as mess up and chaotic, they see the world as perfect as it is, and the major theme is still well-being, and there are so much chance to love, help, give, support and growth.
• They focus on solution or finding a solution, not problems. They’re not focusing on complaining about things happen, but focus on finding a solution.
• They are an appreciator and lover of life. They appreciate being alive and each and every experience in their life. Or they learn to be so.
• They’re supportive and protective of other people. They understand for other people and where do they come from. As much as possible, they don’t make other people feel bad or feel down.
• They choose to see life and things happened from different perspective because they know that perspective is everything.
• They choose to put into their mind positive news, stories and thinking positive thoughts.
• They remain calm, solid, pleasant in any situation. They know that any challenge or difficulty is only temporarily. They know that they still have a bright future ahead.

There are things that can make you happy instantly or increase your happiness without much investment, and that you can do anytime, anywhere:

+ Listening and/or singing joyful songs:

Songs can alter our mood, and when you are sad, you tend to listen to sad songs, as it just confirms the mood you have. However, you need to train yourself to listen to happy songs because it can help to alter your mood. It’s better if it’s both a happy song and with funny/joyful performance. This song is an example:

• Seeing beautiful and colorful pictures of items or things that you like.

There is a connection between colors and happiness, seeing beautiful and colorful pictures can help you to enjoy life more. It also could work with window shopping, looking at beautiful and colorful items.

• Wear clothes/dress that make you feel beautiful and enjoy being yourself, walk and behave in a way that you feel confident and enjoy yourself. Walking at a place or an atmosphere that makes you feel good. Enjoy how beautiful and wonderful you are.

One of the ways to increase happiness is find out what make you happy, and Happiness Questionnaire is helpful for that. So:

• What is your definition of happiness?
• Is happiness important for you? If yes, why? How much is it important for you?
• Do you think happiness is a choice, or a chance? Can you choose to be happy or happiness is just something that happen?
• What aspects of your life now are you happy with?
• Is there someone in your life that make you happy when you think about?
• Is there a story make you happy or laugh when you think about?
• Is there something you really proud of or happy about yourself?
• What’s your hope about the future that make you really happy?
• Is there an activity that you can join that make you happy?
• What can you advise other people to increase happiness?
• Who is the happiest person that you know in your life? Can you describe that person and how happy they are? How do you feel when you are with them? According to you, what make them happy?
• If you could choose between being happy and being right, what would you choose?

21) The feeling of being respected

22) The feeling of being righteous:

When people feel that they are doing the right thing, or that they’ve been mostly righteous, they would feel happier. On the contrary, they would feel guilty and bad about themselves.

23) The feeling of being admired, honored

24) The feeling of being important

25) The feeling of caring and being cared

26) The feeling of being faithful, devoted, submitted to, going all in:

This can happen between a couple (husband and wife / romantic partners), from a person to God or gods, from a person to their country / tribe / community

27) The feeling of being wealthy, having abundance

28) The feeling of being proud:

This could be being proud of personal achievement or proud of friendship, relationship, honor and award one has.

29) The feeling of being trusted: this could be being trusted with information, property, resources

30) The feeling of being calm and present

31) The feeling of hope, moving forward, seeing a future:

Most human want to grow, expand, and want to be more, do more, have more

32) The feeling of being stable

33) The feeling of adventurous

Life doesn’t need to happen to you. Start living more purposefully and having some ideas for your life by getting to know more what do you want out of life and design your dream life.

A life without direction is like a boat floating in the middle of ocean without direction, it could keep going but doesn’t know where to go. Design your dream life is like to give the boat a direction to go, despite it may encounter storms or challenges.

How to design your dream life?

It’s to ask the question what do you want? By the end of the day, what do you truly want? Do you want to be happy, healthy, success? Having a fulfilling life? Being able to help others? Do you want to see yourself and others thriving? Do you want to be with people you love? Live at a place you truly enjoy to live? Do the work you truly enjoy to do? Have the freedom to travel and experience life? Having a colorful life?

How much time do you spend on dreaming about the life you want over complaining about your current life? Here are aspects you may want to consider to design your dream life:

Design your dream self

Even if it’s very difficult to change your natural look, or your background, but you still can design your characters, personality and the way you want to feel about yourself.

Do you want to be a joyful, free, effortless, unconditional being?

Do you want to enjoy and proud of being yourself?

Do you want to feel confident and like how you look and the way you carry yourself?

Then you can design your dream self now, and imagine being that dream self everyday.

How would you dress up then? What would be your lifestyle? Who would be the people that you usually meet? How would the place you live look like?

Design your dream career

How do you want your career to make you feel?

Do you want to feel doing the things you love?

What’s something that you absolutely love to do, that you don’t have to care about money?

Who are the people you gonna meet or work with or change their lives once you work with your dream career?

How would your dream career change you?

Design your dream relationship

Who is the person that you want? How would you feel when you meet that person? How would your life change? What’re you doing to be a perfect match for your dream person?

What would you want to do with them? To experience with them? How do you imagine they look at you? And you look at them? Where would you go with them? What would you do with them? How happy you would be with them? How would you and them enjoy life together? go through challenges together? grow together? becoming together?

How beautiful and good looking you are when you walk together? How often would you laugh and smile together? How often does your heart beat? How often would you blush?

It’s not uncommon that people are sometime clueless about their life. They don’t know what is the next step should be, they don’t know which action should they take and they don’t even know what to think and feel in a situation.

How to navigate life at all age is a big question with no specific answer. And below, I only suggest one solution according to my experiences, and feel free to share yours.

First of all, no matter how bad the situation that you are in, you need to keep in your mind the ideal version of yourself and the life that you want to have, knowing that it’s the direction you’re moving forward, that these difficulties are just temporarily, you can and will go through and above it.

Second, imagine the ideal solution for the problem, and feel that the problem is already solved.

Third, finding stories of people who are successfully overcome the situation. And even stories of people who are in the same situation. At least, you can feel being understood.

Fourth, finding valuable lessons or reason to love life and move forward in the situation.

Fifth, direct your mind toward your ideal life and goals.

Above are my simple suggestion to navigate life at all ages. There will be more detail posts for particular situations. Those aren’t really easy to implement, but at least it gives you some directions that there is a light by the end of the tunnel.

That is just my opinion of how to navigate life. How about you? What’s the best way to navigate life according to you?